- #1 – You put “we” before “me”
- #2 – You miss your partner when he/she is not around
- #3 – You fight
- #4 – You trust each other
- #5 – You spend time together, doing things you both enjoy
- #6 – You spend time apart, doing things you enjoy
- #7 – You each have your own friends and shared friends too
- #8 – You feel happy being you
- #9 – You share dreams for the future
- #10 – You are attracted to each other physically
Sometimes people get used to each other and simply forget how it is to be truly happy. Sometimes it’s even worth – they get used to be unhappy forgetting what it feels like to be in healthy relationships. Nevertheless, there are some certain signs that can help you understand whether you are on the right path with your partner or the time has come to change everything.
Here are the Signs of a healthy relationship
#1 – You put “we” before “me”
If whatever decision you are making, you first think of how the results will influence both of you and not just you individually, then this is a sign you are in healthy relationships. The willingness to put the relationship above one’s own desires is that valuable constituent that will help you achieve harmony in a married life.
#2 – You miss your partner when he/she is not around
“Out of sight – out of mind” – is not a good sign. On the contrary to that, if you miss your partner when they are not around, it’s a signal you really want to be with this person.
#3 – You fight
It’s okay that people might not agree with each other sometimes. And it’s important that they express their disagreements to each other, trying to understand the partner and make their fights productive.
#4 – You trust each other
Healthy relationships don’t know what mistrust is. Sure, you want to feel relaxed with your partner and not worry of where he/she is now and what is he/she doing.
#5 – You spend time together, doing things you both enjoy
It’s good if you learn to like doing things he likes. It’s good if you learn to like doing things she likes. But it’s even better if you both find some other thing you both will start doing in your spare time, while enjoying it. It could be doing sports together or macramé. Anything will go well if you both like it.
#6 – You spend time apart, doing things you enjoy
It’s also important that you let each other ‘breathe’ while doing things you like doing separately. He might like playing video games and she might enjoy dancing. Each one of you should have your own space and time that you can spend only for dear you.
Each of you should have your own friends who you can talk to sharing your deepest feelings and shared friends with whom you can spend time together. If this part is missing, it’s a sign of concern.
#8 – You feel happy being you
It is important to maintain self-identity and to appreciate each other for this. This inspires both to self-improve and feel more valued and self-confident.
Do you have any plans for the future? Are you dreaming together? Couples who share a vision for what their future entails are in a much better position than partners who don’t.
#10 – You are attracted to each other physically
Last but not least is the physical attraction. It must be so that at the sight if him/her you get that burning physical desire inside and it is definitely just another sign of your relationships being healthy.
HOW TO HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
Communication is a key part to building a healthy relationship. The first step is making sure you both want and expect the same things—being on the same page is very important. The following tips can help you and your partner create and maintain a healthy relationship:
- Speak Up. In a healthy relationship, if something is bothering you, it’s best to talk about it instead of holding it in.
- Respect Each Other. Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value, and so do yours. Let your significant other know you are making an effort to keep their ideas in mind. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships.
Creating boundaries is a good way to keep your relationship healthy and secure. By setting boundaries together, you can both have a deeper understanding of the type of relationship that you and your partner want. Boundaries are not meant to make you feel trapped or like you’re “walking on eggshells.” Creating boundaries is not a sign of secrecy or distrust — it’s an expression of what makes you feel comfortable and what you would like or not like to happen within the relationship.
Remember, healthy boundaries shouldn’t restrict your ability to:
- Go out with your friends without your partner.
- Participate in activities and hobbies you like.
- Not have to share passwords to your email, social media accounts or phone.
- Respect each other’s individual likes and needs.
Healthy Relationship Boosters
Even healthy relationships can use a boost now and then. You may need a boost if you feel disconnected from your partner or like the relationship has gotten stale. If so, find a fun, simple activity you both enjoy, like going on a walk, and talk about the reasons why you want to be in the relationship. Then, keep using healthy behaviors as you continue dating.
What Isn’t a Healthy Relationship?
Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control, not equality and respect. In the early stages of an abusive relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviors are a big deal. However, possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other negative, abusive behaviors, are — at their root — exertions of power and control. Remember that abuse is always a choice and you deserve to be respected. There is no excuse for abuse of any kind.
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